umm, I'm pretty sure you can can the spawner process id from any process. I'd iterate through all the processes, find the one's who's parent id matches the one of the process you spawned, and wait for it to die.
alternatively (I mean, thats pretty hack) what is the child child process doing? is there some other way you could detect when it has finished doing what it is meant to do?
a hack way to get a process's parent id
http://www.codeguru.com/cpp/w-p/win32/article.php/c1437
takes a handle, and using the method in the code above, returns the parent id.
http://msdn.microsoft.com/en-us/library/ms684280(VS.85).aspx
OpenProcess takes an id, gets a handle to it (if you're lucky)
http://msdn.microsoft.com/en-us/library/ms684320(VS.85).aspx
GetProcessId takes a handle, gets it's id.
http://msdn.microsoft.com/en-us/library/ms683215(VS.85).aspx
GetExitCodeProcess takes a handle, returns whether the process is done or not.
http://msdn.microsoft.com/en-us/library/ms683189(VS.85).aspx
so appart from using hidden nt calls that it expressly tells you not to, you would basically have to create your process, get it's id, then spam all the process, opening them and checking their parent ids against the id of the process you created, if you didn't find one, then it's done, if you do, spam it with GetExitCodeProcess until its done.
I haven't tested any of this, but it looks like A way to do it. though if it's THE BEST way to do it I might just have to loose all faith in windows...