Well, you haven't actually stated exactly what the hardware you are targetting is, if it's a shared-memory machine then OpenMP is an option. Most parallel programmers would regard parallelisation with OpenMP as an easier option than using MPI in any of its incarnations. I'd also suggest that it is easier to retrofit OpenMP to an existing code than MPI. The best, in the sense of best-performing, MPI programs are those designed from the ground up to be parallelised with message-passing. For one thing, the best sequential algorithm does not always the best algorithm for a problem once it has been parallelised. Sometimes a simple, but sequentially-sub-optimal algorithm is a better choice.
You may have access to a shared-memory computer:
- all multicore CPUs are effectively shared-memory computers;
- on a lot of clusters the nodes are often two or four CPUs strong, if they each have 4 cores then you might have a 16-core shared-memory machine on your cluster;
- if you have access to an MPP supercomputer you will probably find that each of its nodes is a shared-memory computer.
If you are stuck with message-passing then I'd strongly advise you to stick with C++ and OpenMPI (or whatever MPI is already installed on your system), and you should definitely look at BoostMPI too. I advise this strongly because, once you step outside the mainstream of high-performance scientific computing, you may find yourself in an army of one programming with an idiosyncratic collection of just-fit-for-research libraries and other tools. C++, OpenMPI and Boost are sufficiently well used that you can regard them as being of 'weapons-grade' or whatever your preferred analogy might be. There's little enough traffic on SO, for example, on MPI and OpenMP, check out the stats on the other technologies before you bet the farm on them.
If you have no experience of MPI then you might want to look at a book called Parallel Scientific Computing in C++ and MPI by Karniadakis and Kirby. Using MPI by Gropp et al is OK as a reference, but it's not a beginner's text on programming for message-passing.