I had this same problem, and it turned out that I was just working too hard. The answer lies in getObjectById(). If this works for you, please go to my very-similar S.O. question and give Gordon's answer a vote-up, since he's the one who showed me this.
Player result = null;
if (playerKey == null)
{
log.log(Level.WARNING, "Tried to find player with null key.");
}
else
{
PersistenceManager pm = assassin.PMF.get().getPersistenceManager();
try {
result = (Player) pm.getObjectById(Player.class, playerKey);
} catch (javax.jdo.JDOObjectNotFoundException notFound) {
// Player not found; we will return null.
result = null;
}
pm.close();
}
return result;