Decoupling is a very general principle applicable in many fields. Dependency inversion is a specific form of decoupling where you decouple the higher levels of your system from the lower levels by separating them into libraries and using interfaces. This allows you to replace lower level parts of your system without major rework.
For example, instead of the higher level parts of the system creates concrete instances of the lower level classes an IoC container can be used to decouple how objects are created.
Inversion of control is a design principle used by framework libraries that allow the framework regain some control from the application. I.e., a windowing framework may call back into application code when certain user interface events occur. Martin Fowler uses the term Hollywood Principle as in Don't call us, we'll call you. Decoupling is an important part of inversion of control.
But what has an IoC container to do with inversion of control? To quote Martin Fowler:
Inversion of Control is too generic a term, and thus people find it confusing. As a result with a lot of discussion with various IoC advocates we settled on the name Dependency Injection.
(Note that Martin Fowler talks about dependency injection, not dependency inversion.)
An IoC container helps to implement dependency injection and perhaps a better term would be dependency injection container. However, the IoC container name seems to stick. Dependency injection is an important component in dependency inversion, but the use of IoC containers for dependency injection can be confusing as inversion of control is a broader and more generic principle.
You point out that the naming isn't very consistent but that shouldn't be a big surprise as these terms have been independently invented and used even though they overlap.