This page from MSDN docs on OpenXML seems to indicate you should be able to use the ".." notation for the parent:
declare @idoc int
declare @doc varchar(1000)
set @doc ='<ROOT>
<Customer CustomerID="VINET" ContactName="Paul Henriot">
<Order OrderID="10248" CustomerID="VINET" EmployeeID="5"
OrderDate="1996-07-04T00:00:00">
<OrderDetail ProductID="11" Quantity="12"/>
<OrderDetail ProductID="42" Quantity="10"/>
</Order>
</Customer>
<Customer CustomerID="LILAS" ContactName="Carlos Gonzlez">
<Order OrderID="10283" CustomerID="LILAS" EmployeeID="3"
OrderDate="1996-08-16T00:00:00">
<OrderDetail ProductID="72" Quantity="3"/>
</Order>
</Customer>
</ROOT>'
--Create an internal representation of the XML document.
exec sp_xml_preparedocument @idoc OUTPUT, @doc
-- SELECT stmt using OPENXML rowset provider
SELECT *
FROM OPENXML (@idoc, '/ROOT/Customer/Order/OrderDetail',2)
WITH (OrderID int '../@OrderID',
CustomerID varchar(10) '../@CustomerID',
OrderDate datetime '../@OrderDate',
ProdID int '@ProductID',
Qty int '@Quantity')
Does that work in your case, too?
UPDATE:
Try this (the "pseudo-attribute" @mp:parentlocalname) :
SELECT *
FROM OPENXML (@idoc, '/ROOT/Customer/Order/OrderDetail',2)
WITH (OrderID int '../@OrderID',
CustomerID varchar(10) '../@CustomerID',
OrderDate datetime '../@OrderDate',
ProdID int '@ProductID',
Qty int '@Quantity',
ParentNodeName varchar(50) '@mp:parentlocalname' )
Does this now do what you want? :-)
See a whole list of these "pseudo-attributes" in this article at ExtremeExperts.
Marc