The usual pattern for memory barrier usage matches what you would put in the implementation of a critical section, but split into pairs for the producer and consumer. As an example your critical section implementation would typically be of the form:
while (!pShared->lock.testAndSet_Acquire()) ;
// (this loop should include all the normal critical section stuff like
// spin, waste,
// pause() instructions, and last-resort-give-up-and-blocking on a resource
// until the lock is made available.)
// Access to shared memory.
pShared->foo = 1
v = pShared-> goo
pShared->lock.clear_Release()
Acquire memory barrier above makes sure that any loads (pShared->goo) that may have been started before the successful lock modification are tossed, to be restarted if neccessary.
The release memory barrier ensures that the load from goo into the (local say) variable v is complete before the lock word protecting the shared memory is cleared.
You have a similar pattern in the typical producer and consumer atomic flag scenerio (it is difficult to tell by your sample if that is what you are doing but should illustrate the idea).
Suppose your producer used an atomic variable to indicate that some other state is ready to use. You'll want something like this:
pShared->goo = 14
pShared->atomic.setBit_Release()
Without a "write" barrier here in the producer you have no guarantee that the hardware isn't going to get to the atomic store before the goo store has made it through the cpu store queues, and up through the memory hierarchy where it is visible (even if you have a mechanism that ensures the compiler orders things the way you want).
In the consumer
if ( pShared->atomic.compareAndSwap_Acquire(1,1) )
{
v = pShared->goo
}
Without a "read" barrier here you won't know that the hardware hasn't gone and fetched goo for you before the atomic access is complete. The atomic (ie: memory manipulated with the Interlocked functions doing stuff like lock cmpxchg), is only "atomic" with respect to itself, not other memory.
Now, the remaining thing that has to be mentioned is that the barrier constructs are highly unportable. Your compiler probably provides _acquire and _release variations for most of the atomic manipulation methods, and these are the sorts of ways you would use them. Depending on the platform you are using (ie: ia32), these may very well be exactly what you would get without the _acquire() or _release() suffixes. Platforms where this matters are ia64 (effectively dead except on HP where its still twitching slightly), and powerpc. ia64 had .acq and .rel instruction modifiers on most load and store instructions (including the atomic ones like cmpxchg). powerpc has separate instructions for this (isync and lwsync give you the read and write barriers respectively).
Now. Having said all this. Do you really have a good reason for going down this path? Doing all this correctly can be very difficult. Be prepared for a lot of self doubt and insecurity in code reviews and make sure you have a lot of high concurrency testing with all sorts of random timing scenerios. Use a critical section unless you have a very very good reason to avoid it, and don't write that critical section yourself.