I have experience with various versions of SQL Server and Oracle and my general sense is that, deserving or not, Oracle probably has a better reputation for being the preferred database although I sense MS has been closing ground for some time and sometimes even claiming that it outperforms Oracle in situations x,y, and whatever, a close cousin to z.
A friend of mine who works for the gov't has told me that "they can't use either of those databases because they aren't "robust enough" - or something to that effect and that they had to use IBM's DB2 database.
I'm would expect this to be a very difficult question to answer in such broad terms, but could someone just give me an idea as to which db products are generally regarded as being powerful enough (or whatever word you want to apply) for large size high volume enterprises?
If you want to throw in your perspective of how reality differs from general public perception, I'd be interested, too.
My gut tells me that either of these three products could probably be used o successfully implement the largest of enterprises if you know how to design and implement it, but again, I am looking for a little bit of what one product might have over the other vs. public perceptions, deserved or undeserved.
..and if you cancel this question, help me understand why subjective is a tag.:-)