Jax, you said that:
The problem is that the black_alpha will apply the the entire list, not just the selected list item
I had the same problem. After playing around with it for a while, I was able to get it to stop applying the color to the whole list by using a 3x3 png image of the color I wanted instead of applying a color. So for some weird reason if you use a color you get the odd background behavior, when you use a png, it works fine. :S
So that is one way to get around it.
-----Another way----------
I found the best results when I set the listView selector to not have any states like this:
res/drawable/list_selector.xml
<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?>
<selector xmlns:android="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res/android">
</selector>
Then I take care of all the states in the background of the list item. NOT in the selector. I found I had more control this way.
res/color/list_item_bg.xml
<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?>
<selector xmlns:android="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res/android">
<item android:state_selected="false"
android:state_pressed="false"
android:drawable="@color/list_item_black_translucent" />
<item android:state_pressed="true"
android:drawable="@color/light_green_accent_translucent" />
</selector>
Then here is my list item:
res/layout/simple_list_item.xml
<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?>
<LinearLayout xmlns:android="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res/android"
android:layout_width="fill_parent"
android:layout_height="wrap_content"
android:orientation="horizontal"
android:paddingRight="45dip"
android:paddingBottom="2dip"
android:layout_gravity="center_vertical"
android:background="@color/list_item_bg">
<ImageView
android:id="@+id/arrow"
android:layout_width="wrap_content"
android:layout_height="wrap_content"
android:layout_marginRight="8dip"
android:src="@drawable/list_item_arrow" />
<TextView
android:id="@+id/simple_list_item_label"
android:layout_width="fill_parent"
android:layout_height="wrap_content"
android:gravity="center_vertical"
android:textSize="12sp"
android:textColor="@color/list_label_color"/>
</LinearLayout>