if your first column has quotes always,
$ awk 'BEGIN{ FS="\042[ ]*," } { m=split($2,a,","); print a[3] } ' file
I_want_this_column
if the column you want is always the last 2nd,
$ awk -F"," '{print $(NF-1)}' file
I_want_this_column
You can try this demo script to break down the columns
awk 'BEGIN{ FS="," }
{
for(i=1;i<=NF;i++){
# save normal
if($i !~ /^[ ]*\042|[ ]*\042[ ]*$/){
a[++j]=$i
}
# if quotes at the end
if(f==1 && $i ~ /[ ]*\042[ ]*$/){
s=s","$i
a[++j]=s
#reset
s="";f=0
}
# if quotes in front
if($i ~ /^[ ]*\042/){
s=s $i
f=1
}
if(f==1 && ( $i !~/\042/ ) ){
s=s","$i
}
}
}
END{
# print columns
for(p=1;p<=j;p++){
print "Field "p,": "a[p]
}
} ' file
output
$ cat file
"sdfsdfsd, sfsdf", "454,fgdfg blah , words ", I_want_this_column,sdfgdg
$ ./shell.sh
Field 1 : "sdfsdfsd, sfsdf"
Field 2 : fgdfg blah
Field 3 : "454,fgdfg blah , words "
Field 4 : I_want_this_column
Field 5 : sdfgdg