Never figured I'd answer my own question on SO but here goes:
Accessing the superview's superview and querying the indexPath section and row properties did the trick.
In the target of the button:
-(void)showDeleteSheet:(id)sender {
NSIndexPath *indexPath = [table indexPathForCell:(UITableViewCell *)[[sender superview] superview]];
NSInteger currentSection = indexPath.section;
NSInteger currentIndexRow = indexPath.row;
//form the actionSheet
UIActionSheet *actionSheet = [[UIActionSheet alloc] initWithTitle:@"Delete this item?"
delegate:self
cancelButtonTitle:@"Cancel"
destructiveButtonTitle:@"Delete"
otherButtonTitles:nil];
actionSheet.tag = currentIndexRow;
actionSheet.actionSheetStyle = UIActionSheetStyleDefault;
[actionSheet showInView:self.view];
[actionSheet release];
}
Then down in the actionSheet's clickedButtonAtIndex method I get the row I need:
-(void)actionSheet:(UIActionSheet *)actionSheet clickedButtonAtIndex:(NSInteger)buttonIndex {
if (buttonIndex == 0)
{ ... doSomethingWith: actionSheet.tag }
else
{ ... user pressed cancel }
}
Part of the answer was found in another post and and the rest here