I don't think your "in other words" really restates the problem that you describe first, so I'll answer both.
Here's a fairly simple method that will determine the nth occurrence of a particular day of the week in a given month in a given year.
public static DateTime DayOccurrence(int year, int month, DayOfWeek day,
int occurrenceNumber)
{
DateTime start = new DateTime(year, month, 1);
DateTime first = start.AddDays((7 - ((int)start.DayOfWeek - (int)day)) % 7);
return first.AddDays(7 * (occurrenceNumber - 1));
}
Determining which Monday (or any other day) of the month a date is is much easier; just take the ceiling of the day of the month / 7:
public static int DayOccurrence(DateTime date)
{
return (int)Math.Ceiling(date.Day / 7.0);
}