Yes, it is a wee bit sad that it works that way. It made a lot of sense at the time, now 10 years ago already. Windows Forms was targeted to be a replacement for VB6, the dominant point-and-click UI designer at the time. And Form_Load was important in VB6, that's where you customized the form view.
That wasn't really appropriate from the get-go, the Form class has a true-blooded constructor. And you can set control properties in the constructor before the actual native Window control gets created. There's a ton of code in WF to make that work. Code that the designer relies on, it sets these properties before the Load event fires. It is very efficient to do so, many controls get a lot slower when they need to be updated after their window is created. Like ListView and TreeView.
There are few reasons to not use the constructor yourself, like the designer does, especially since the C# IDE doesn't try to hide the constructor. Except one: you need the Load event when you write the kind of code that requires knowing the actual form size. That size isn't known until the window actually gets created, the Load event is the earliest after that. That ought to be rare.
And of course, if you do want to use Load then you override OnLoad instead of using the Load event. That would be another one.