A technical challenge! We can avoid the problem of letters after spaces by looking at the catcode of the next character and seeing whether or not it is a letter; this can be done with the Latex3's expl3 macro \peek_charcode:NTF
(my first expl3 code!):
\documentclass{article}
\usepackage{expl3}
\ExplSyntaxOn
\newcommand\latinabbrev[1]{
\peek_meaning:NTF . {% Same as \@ifnextchar
#1\@}%
{ \peek_catcode:NTF a {% Check whether next char has same catcode as \'a, i.e., is a letter
#1.\@ }%
{#1.\@}}}
\ExplSyntaxOff
%Omit final dot from each def.
\def\eg{\latinabbrev{e.g}}
\def\etal{\latinabbrev{et al}}
\def\etc{\latinabbrev{etc}}
\def\ie{\latinabbrev{i.e}}
\begin{document}
Maybe a list, \eg, a, b, c, and d. Which is to say (\ie) a, b, \etc. Consider Knuth, \cf The TeXbook.
\end{document}
Jukka's advice I think is sound, though: I'd say the problem Will works around with his \etc macro we should see as a bug in Tex's implementation of double spacing (Will Robertson should ask for his cheque): if you know the bug is there, you can workaround it directly by putting in \@ in cases such as ".)", or you can have tricky code that means you don't have to think in this case, but you have added complexity to the way you typeset which is not going to work for you with the next unexpected glitch, one you probably have introduced yourself.
Postscript Previous version fixed, thanks to Joseph Wright noticing a stupid error at tex.stackexchange.com.