These are questions which, in my opionion, requires different knowledge from different domains.
- You just can't know in advance "which" tables to build, you have to know the problem you have to solve and design the schema accordingly;
- This is a mix of database design decision and your database vendor custom capabilities (ie. you should check the documentation of your (r)dbms and eventually learn some "tips & tricks" for scaling), also the configuration of your dbms is crucial for scaling (replication, data partitioning and so on);
- again, almost every rdbms comes with a particular "dialect" of the SQL language, so if you want efficient queries you have to learn that particular dialect --btw. much probably write elegant query which are also efficient is a big deal: elegance and efficiency are frequently conflicting goals--
That said, maybe you want to read some books, personally I've used this book in my datbase university course (and found a decent one, but I've not read other books in this field, so my advice is to check out for some good books in database design).