In short: I'm trying to figure out if I should tell a mail administrator of a friend's employer whether their mail configuration should be fixed, or if I should revise my own policy to be more liberal in what I accept, or neither.
A friend was complaining of being unable to reach anything on my mailserver. I dug into it and it seems that the hostname provided by his mail server when it connected to mine was somewhere in the *.local space, meaning it wasn't globally resolvable.
They were rejected with "Helo command rejected: Host not found;" by my postfix mailserver. I'm perhaps strict on my UCE checks in postfix, so I whitelisted their (in my opinion, misconfigured) server but now I'm trying to figure out to what extent they actually are misconfigured, versus whether I'm just being too harsh in what I accept.
So then I checked the RFCs - RFC 821 says "The HELO receiver MAY verify that the HELO parameter really corresponds to the IP address of the sender. However, the receiver MUST NOT refuse to accept a message, even if the sender's HELO command fails verification." which suggests to me that I'm actually the one violating the RFC.
Was this portion of RFC 821 ever replaced by a future RFC, that I can point to? Or must mail servers accept mail with bogus HELOs? Are there any well respected authorities I can point to that state the HELO hostname should be valid, as a reference for contacting their mail admin?