Edit: Revising My Question
When building an external PHP module in C, how do I link shared objects?
Edit: Revising My Question
When building an external PHP module in C, how do I link shared objects?
If your C extension code uses a shared library, you need to declare that in the config.m4 file.
I strongly recommend using the ext_skel script that's included in the PHP source to generate a skeleton config.m4: 
./ext_skel --extname=myextension
Since you're linking to a library, by convention you should use the --with-myextension options (as opposed to --enable-myextension).  Uncomment the relevant lines in the config.m4 and fill in the details of your lib.
Something like the following:
  # --with-myextension -> check for lib and symbol presence
  LIBNAME=the_lib_your_extension_needs # you may want to change this
  LIBSYMBOL=some_symbol_in_the_lib_you_extension_needs # you most likely want to change this 
  PHP_CHECK_LIBRARY($LIBNAME,$LIBSYMBOL,
  [
    PHP_ADD_LIBRARY_WITH_PATH($LIBNAME, $MYEXTENSION_DIR/lib, MYEXTENSION_SHARED_LIBADD)
    AC_DEFINE(HAVE_MYEXTENSIONLIB,1,[ ])
  ],[
    AC_MSG_ERROR([wrong $LIBNAME lib version or lib not found])
  ],[
    -L$MYEXTENSION_DIR/lib -ldl
  ])
Then to build it, run:
phpize
./configure --with-myextension
make
Finally you need to copy your module (or ln -s) to wherever your system expects to find it.
If that all worked then php -m should include your module in the list.
Unfortunately I've never found a good online reference to PHP's config.m4 commands - the books for this are Sara Golemon's Extending and Embedding PHP and also parts of George Schlossnagle's Advanced PHP Programming.
There's a reasonable beginners guide to creating PHP extensions by Sara Goleman here, but for the meat you really need her book.