I don't see you getting any specific answers, so I try with a general one that may help. If you are referring to calls going out the PSTN (Public switched telephone network), you won't be able to detect when the far side answers. The way the phone network is structured, you won't be able to get that information except in very special cases. Usually what you see on the handset is the moment the call is being routed out of the cell network.
As for in network (same subscriber), it may be possible to get that information, but I'm not sure. You may want to look into CDMA or the protocol used by your carrier to see if it is going to even be possible to get farside information.