Luke,
You are not the first to ask this question. Its a major drawback to current WPF version where there is no event such as PreviewSelectionChangeEvent for Selector derived control. The only community accepted solution to this problem is of course a HACK solution. Here is the approach.
public void OnSelectionChange(object sender, SelectionChangedEventArgs e)
{
// Selector is based class for all selection enabled control
// (not too sure if your datagrid
// derives from the same class, you will need to check).
var selector = e.OriginalSource as Selector;
if (selector == null) return;
// Get the old items and new items from the selection change
// (note, that they are IList type).
// Let's assume that your datagrid will only allow single cell selection only,
// ie. newItems.Count == 1
var newItems = e.AddedItems;
var oldItems = e.RemovedItems;
// May need to check if not null first.
if (oldItems.Count == 1 && newItems.Count == 1)
{
// Checking logic for the first (and only) items.
// Casting the item into our known type.
var myObject = newItems[0] as myType;
// Notice that I reversed the logic, this is because we are
// only interested in when our logic fails and we need to revert
// the selection to the old item,
// otherwise the new item is selected by default
if (!(myObject != null && SomeOtherCondition))
selector.SelectedItem = oldItems[0];
}
}
Hope that leads you to a solution.