You have to choose the layout when you're building your remoteView. In my widget code:
public static RemoteViews buildUpdate(Context context, String action) {
    RemoteViews updateViews;      
    SharedPreferences prefs = context.getSharedPreferences(PREFS_NAME, 0);
    String typeface = prefs.getString("typeface", "sans");
    int layoutId = R.layout.widget_sans;
    if ("monospace".equals(typeface)){
        layoutId = R.layout.widget_mono;
    } else if ("serif".equals(typeface)){
        layoutId = R.layout.widget_serif;
    }
    updateViews = new RemoteViews(context.getPackageName(),
        layoutId);
    //actually do things here
    //then finally, return our remoteView
    AppWidgetManager.getInstance(context).updateAppWidget(
        new ComponentName(context, FuzzyWidget.class), updateViews);
}