"It always has to be YOUR way!"
Anyone who says that must be thinking that the choices you are arguing over are arbitrary or purely a matter of taste. In fact the longest arguments are almost always over things that don't matter (there's a name for that law but I can't remember it).
If, in all honesty, they are a matter of taste, then stop having the argument.
But if you have a rationale for your suggestion, explain it. If they still say "It always has to be your way", then you need to explain something else to them: it doesn't have to be your way; it has to be the way that has the best rational justification, which is why you didn't just give them an order. You're not imposing your view; you're asserting your view, and assertions can be contradicted, and when that happens you will gladly alter your view.
Don't expect real people to take naturally to such a purely rational way of thinking. Real people bear grudges, they sulk, they gang up on each other, they work in marketing. if I stand up for you in the argument about where to put the curly braces, maybe you'll stand up for me in the argument about thread pools. Who cares if we end up contradicting ourselves? We're a bunch of apes trying to figure out who's going to control the mating. This just happens. You can practise it tactically by "letting the other guy win" in a dispute where the outcome isn't that important to you.
But for the stuff that matters, you have to make it an interesting discussion about why one approach is better than another, to get everyone out of ape-mode.
If anyone says:
- "We're not going to do X. It's just
wrong", or
- "We're going to do Y.
That's the way you do these things.
Everyone knows that"
... don't let them get away with it! It's the road to insanity. And if you hear yourself saying things like that, you're part of the problem.