This is something I might try before recreating the helper completely. The basic idea is that the Html you get from the helper should be well formed, so it should be safe to parse. So you can build on that idea by making your own extension that uses the existing extension but adds the functionality to disable the items.
Something like this might do (totally untested)
public class CustomSelectItem : SelectListItem
{
public bool Enabled { get; set; }
}
public static class CustomHtmlHelpers
{
public static MvcHtmlString MyDropDownList(this HtmlHelper html, IEnumerable<CustomSelectItem> selectList)
{
var selectDoc = XDocument.Parse(html.DropDownList("", (IEnumerable<SelectListItem>)selectList).ToString());
var options = from XElement el in selectDoc.Element("select").Descendants()
select el;
foreach (var item in options)
{
var itemValue = item.Attribute("value");
if (!selectList.Where(x => x.Value == itemValue.Value).Single().Enabled)
item.SetAttributeValue("disabled", "disabled");
}
// rebuild the control, resetting the options with the ones you modified
selectDoc.Root.ReplaceAll(options.ToArray());
return MvcHtmlString.Create(selectDoc.ToString());
}
}