The answer lies in using advice, because the hooks normally run when killing buffers run after the "buffer modified" prompt you want to change.
The following advice does what you want (I think). A couple of notes:
- When running the diff, the original buffer is marked as not modified - but you'll really need to save it.
- The other buffer in the diff doesn't get deleted
(defadvice kill-buffer (around my-kill-buffer-check activate)
"Prompt when a buffer is about to be killed."
(let* ((buffer-file-name (buffer-file-name))
backup-file)
;; see 'backup-buffer
(if (and (buffer-modified-p)
buffer-file-name
(file-exists-p buffer-file-name)
(setq backup-file (car (find-backup-file-name buffer-file-name))))
(let ((answer (completing-read (format "Buffer modified %s, (d)iff, (s)ave, (k)ill? " (buffer-name))
'("d" "s" "k") nil t)))
(cond ((equal answer "d")
(set-buffer-modified-p nil)
(let ((orig-buffer (current-buffer))
(file-to-diff (if (file-newer-than-file-p buffer-file-name backup-file)
buffer-file-name
backup-file)))
(set-buffer (get-buffer-create (format "%s last-revision" (file-name-nondirectory file-to-diff))))
(buffer-disable-undo)
(insert-file-contents file-to-diff nil nil nil t)
(set-buffer-modified-p nil)
(setq buffer-read-only t)
(ediff-buffers (current-buffer) orig-buffer)))
((equal answer "k")
(set-buffer-modified-p nil)
ad-do-it)
(t
(save-buffer)
ad-do-it)))
ad-do-it)))