i'm just beginning with wordpress and didnt include that in my theme, when i add it now it meses some things up and since i only have to add 1 more thing with jquery i dont want to do the hassle of fixing those things, so i just need to add jquery without the the tag. Any ideas?
I would highly recommend that you keep <?php wp_head(); ?>
not having wp_head will cause more problems down the road. For example, your friend will not be able to use most plugins.
If you want to use Googles jQuery you just need to de register WordPress's jQuery:
if( !is_admin()){
wp_deregister_script('jquery');
wp_register_script('jquery', ("http://ajax.googleapis.com/ajax/libs/jquery/1.4.2/jquery.min.js"), false, '1.4.2');
wp_enqueue_script('jquery');
}