This is just a wild stab in the dark, but is there any chance that the order in which you call admin.site.register(< Model class >, < ModelAdmin class >) can determine the display order? Actually, I doubt that would work because I believe Django maintains a registry of the Model -> ModelAdmin objects implemented as a standard Python dictionary, which does not maintain iteration ordering.
If that doesn't behave the way you want, you can always play around with the source in django/contrib/admin. If you need the iteration order maintained, you could replace the _registry object in the AdminSite class (in admin/sites.py) with a UserDict or DictMixin that maintains insertion order for the keys. (But please take this advice with a grain of salt, since I've never made these kinds of changes myself and I'm only making an educated guess at how Django iterates over the collection of ModelAdmin objects. I do think that django/contrib/admin/sites.py is the place to look for this code, though, and the AdminSite class and register() and index() methods in particular are what you want.)
Obviously the nicest thing here would be a simple option for you to specify in your own /admin.py module. I'm sure that's the kind of answer you were hoping to receive. I'm not sure if those options exist, though.