To some extent he has a point. Traditional c/unix development works to a platform that is simple enough to be able to understand more-or-less in its entirety. Modern platforms are orders of magnitude more complex, and understanding how all of the layers interact is much harder, often infeasible.
The law of leaky abstractions mainly applies when the framework does a bad job of managing the underlying complexity. Some of the ways in which a framework may be judged are its transparency (ease of understanding what's going on behind the scenes) and its ability to drop out to a custom workaround for limitations in its functionality.
When a framework does a lot of complex magic behind the scenes, diagnosing and troubleshooting become much harder, often requiring a disproportionately large amount of expertise in the underlying architecture of the framework. This means that productivity gains from the framework get absorbed in the extra effort of training and debugging the code. It also makes the framework difficult to learn and use with confidence, which is what your C programming friend is used to.
When a framework obstructs you from working around its limitations, then it becomes an impediment to development. When this happens often enough, the code base is either boxed in or becomes polluted with ever greater and messier hacks to work around the issues. This also leads to stability and debugging problems,
Examples of frameworks with these flaws abound. MFC was quite famous for failing to hide the underlying complexity of Win32. It also made extensive use of wizards that generated messy code that needed to be manually modified aftwrwards, defeating the purpose of having a code generator in the first place. Early Java GUI toolkits (AWT and early versions of Swing) have very little uptake in desktop applications because they obstructed developeers from implementing a native look-and-feel for the applications. SWT was built in no small part because of these limitations with Swing.
However, now Java has matured a bit, it could be argued that most of its early sins have been fixed in modern frameworks. J2EE is still a large, complex system, and developing a non-triviall user interface in a browser is also quite a substantial undertaking. Becoming proficient in this platform is quite a lot of work. However, it's not beyond the wit of man.