There are some tasks where regular expressions are the best tool to use.
There are some tasks where regular expressions are pointlessly obscure.
There are some tasks where they're reasonably appropriate, but a different approach may be more readable.
In general, I think of using a regular expression when an actual pattern is involved. If you're just looking for a specific string, I wouldn't generally use a regex. As an example of a grey area, someone once asked on a newsgroup the best way to check whether one string contained any of a number of other strings. The two ways which came up were:
- Build a regex with alternatives and perform a single match.
- Test each string in turn with
string.Contains
.
Personally I think the latter way is much simpler - it doesn't require any thought about escaping the strings you're looking for, or any other knowledge of regular expressions (and their different flavours across different platforms).
As an example of somewhere that regular expressions are quite clearly the wrong choice, someone seriously proposed using a regular expression to test whether or not a string three characters long. Their regular expression didn't even work, despite them claiming that the reason they thought of regular expressions first is because they'd been using them for so long, and that they naturally sort of "thought" in regular expressions.
There are, however, plenty of examples where regular expressions really do make life easier - as I say, when you're actually matching patterns: "I want one letter, then three digits, then another letter" or whatever. I don't find myself using regular expressions very often, but when I do use them, they save a lot of work.
In short, I believe it's good to know regular expressions - but equally to be careful about when to use them. It's easy to end up with write-only code which could be made simpler to understand by rewriting with simple string operations, even if the resulting code is slightly longer.
EDIT: In response to the edit of the question...
I don't think it's a good idea to be evangelical about them - in my experience, that tends to lead to using them where an alternative would be simpler, and that just makes you look bad. On the other hand, if you come across someone writing complicated code to avoid using a regular expression, it's fine to point out that a regex would make the code simpler.
Personally I like to comment my regular expressions in quite a detailed way, splitting them up onto several lines with a comment between each line. That way they're easier to maintain, and it doesn't look like you're just trying to be "hard core" geeky (which can be the impression, even if it's not the actual intended aim).
I think the most important thing is to remember that short != readable. Never claim that using a regex is better because it requires less code - claim that it's better when it's genuinely simpler and easier to understand (or where there's a significant performance benefit, of course).