I can't personally speak to the stability of the IntelliJ or NetBeans plugins (though I have heard good things), but the Scala IDE for Eclipse just recently made a new release with Scala 2.7.4. Architecturally, this release is quite different from the previous ones in that it uses Equinox Aspects, the officially supported mechanism for extending JDT (and other cross-plugin extensions). Whereas before the Scala plugin had to literally hack into the JDT internals using private APIs and reflection to trick the system into behaving properly, now it is able to simply declare its extension points and let the system do the rest. It's hard to even describe how much more stable this makes things. I'm not saying that it's all sunshine and roses yet, but if you've tried and rejected the plugin in the past (as I had), it's time to give it another look.
As for how it stacks up feature-wise, SDT doesn't have any refactoring support (IntelliJ has some basic stuff like "Rename"), nor does the editor do some things like "Mark Occurrences". However, it has a significantly better Outline than NetBeans, better compiler support than IDEA, and very good semantic highlighting. All three plugins support content assist (or "intellisense", as Microsoft calls it), but none of them are particularly reliable in this area just yet. The Scala IDE for Eclipse is the only one to support incremental compilation (alla Eclipse's Java tooling).
My advice: shop around. Try all three and see which one works the best for you. From what I've been hearing, the Scala IDE for Eclipse has leap-frogged the competition with its latest release, but the others have shown such consistent stability and steady advancement that you can't count them out just yet.