You can get creative using a addref/release like approach. Just create a few functions and an integer variable in your shared datamodule to do the magic, and be sure to call them..partial code follows:
TDMShared = class(tDataModule)
private
fQueryCount : integer; // set to 0 in constructor
public
function GetQuery : tDataset;
procedure CloseQuery;
end;
function TDMShared.GetQuery : tDataset;
begin
inc(fQueryCount);
if fQueryCount = 1 then
SharedDatsetQry.open;
Result := shareddatasetqry; // your shared dataset here
end;
procedure TDMShared.CloseQuery;
begin
dec(fQueryCount);
if fQueryCount <= 0 then
shareddatasetqry.close; // close only when no refs left.
end;
EDIT: To do this with multiple queries, you need a container to hold the query references, and a way to manipulate them. a tList works well for this. You will need to make appropriate changes for your TDataset descendant, as well as create a FreeAndNil function if you are using an older version of Delphi. The concept I used for this was to maintain a list of all queries you request and manipulate them by the handle which is in effect the index of the query in the list. The method FreeUnusedQueries is there to free any objects which no longer have a reference...this can also be done as part of the close query method, but I separated it to handle the cases where a specific query would need to be reopened by another module.
Procedure TDMShared.DataModuleCreate(Sender:tObject);
begin
dsList := tList.create;
end;
Function TDMShared.CreateQuery(aSql:String):integer;
var
ds : tAdoDataset;
begin
// create your dataset here, for this example using TADODataset
ds := tAdoDataset.create(nil); // self managed
ds.connection := database;
ds.commandtext := aSql;
ds.tag := 0;
Result := dsList.add(ds);
end;
function TDMShared.GetQuery( handle : integer ) : tDataset;
begin
result := nil;
if handle > dsList.count-1 then exit;
if dsList.Items[ handle ] = nil then exit; // handle already closed
result := tAdoDataset( dsList.items[ handle ]);
Inc(Result.tag);
if Result.Tag = 1 then
Result.Open;
end;
procedure TDMShared.CloseQuery( handle : integer );
var
ds : tAdoDataset;
begin
if handle > dsLIst.count-1 then exit;
ds := tAdoDataset( dsList.items[ handle ]);
dec(ds.Tag);
if ds.Tag <= 0 then
ds.close;
end;
procedure TDMShared.FreeUnusedQueries;
var
ds : tAdoDataset;
ix : integer;
begin
for ix := 0 to dsList.Count - 1 do
begin
ds := tAdoDataset(dsLIst.Items[ ix ]);
if ds.tag <= 0 then
FreeAndNil(dsList.Items[ix]);
end;
end;
procedure TDMShared.DataModuleDestroy(Sender: TObject);
var
ix : integer;
begin
for ix := 0 to dsList.count-1 do
begin
if dsLIst.Items[ix] <> nil then
FreeAndNil(dsLIst.Items[ix]);
end;
dsList.free;
end;