You have a mixed setup.
The Gtk in /opt/local/var/macports did not come from Mono's installer for OSX, you probably got it earlier from macports. The Mono installer places its files under /Library/Frameworks/Mono.framework/
Chances are, you have something else on your path, since it works out of the box after I installed the Mono.Framework from the Mono web site (with the command line example that you have above).