I am just beginning to learn how to write software that accesses an SQL server. It seems that each server implementation (Postgres, MySQL, etc.) offers API libraries for various languages (my code is in C and C++, though solutions for Java and Python would also interest me). I'm a little wary of depending on these libraries, however, because I'd prefer a vendor-neutral solution.
As near as I can tell, Microsoft's ODBC API was meant to solve such problems for C/C++ (and JDBC for Java); unixODBC seems to be one popular implementation. Am I right even so far?
Moreover, do any such libraries provide an object-oriented interface? It would be nice to not simply embed SQL queries into another, more featureful language; I'd like to have a wrapper that mimics the style of the rest of the language, too.
So is there a preferred solution along those lines? Am I asking for something weird?