One of the aspects of computer science/practical software engineering I am weaker at is actually doing significant work in database systems. That is to say, I can do simple queries on smaller datasets, no problem. However, working with complex queries on large datasets invokes a level of understanding of databases beyond me right now. For example, I built an amusing query some time ago that computed a join using a n^2 size where n=20,000- the hosting server suspended my account for blowing the CPU. Shocking.
I am interested in bringing myself up to speed on how to design schema and queries that, well, don't bring down the server. Pursuant to that end, what materials do you recommend that discuss professional database/SQL design and writing?