To workaround you need to remember the last selected position. Then inside of your spinner listener compare the last selected position with the new one. If they are different, then process the event and also update the last selected position with new position value, else just skip the event processing.
If somewhere within the code you are going to programatically change spinner selected position and you don't want the listener to process the event, then just reset the last selected position to the one you're going to set.
Yes, Spinner in Android is painful. I'd even say pain starts from its name - "Spinner". Isn't it a bit misleading? :) As far as we're talking about it you should also be aware there's a bug - Spinner may not restore (not always) its state (on device rotation), so make sure you handle Spinner's state manually.