Boost Interprocess has been around since Boost 1.35 (which should be something like 3 years ago if memory serves).
ACE has been around longer, but from the sound of things, it's probably overkill -- ACE is a big library, and you only seem to want a tiny bit of what it includes. That's not necessarily a major problem, but it is something to keep in mind. In particular, a library that's really designed for big projects can tend to seem (or be) a bit clumsy for smaller ones. ACE is also intended primarily for network development, with IPC included because (for example) you might want to build what appears to be a single server out of a number of cooperating processes, and if so you obviously need a way to build those cooperating processes.
POCO is a lot more like ACE -- it's basically a network library that happens to include some IPC capability. Again, you're looking at using a pretty small part of a much larger, more ambitious library.
Based on what you want, I'd probably use Boost -- it seems to be the closest fit for what you've said you want. POCO would probably be my second choice. Although it's separate from Boost, it seems to largely follow similar design philosophy -- in particular it's meant to integrate with the standard library, where ACE tends to be more all-encompassing.