I've found with reg ex it's easier to maintain, but fine tuning someone else's reg ex is a bit of a pain. I think you underestimate the developers by saying most people don't understand it. Usually what I found is that over time, requirements adjust, and the regex that used to validate something is no longer effective and attempting to remove portions that are no longer valid is harder than to just rewrite the entire thing.
Also, imagine if you were validating phone numbers, and you decided to use code instead of reg ex. So it amounts to let's say 20 lines. Over time, your company decides to expand to other regions where now the phone validation is no longer totally true. So you have to adjust it to fit the other requirements. It could be possible that the code would be harder to maintain because you have to adjust over 20 lines of code rather than simply removing the old reg ex, and replacing it with a new one.
However, I think code can be used in certain cases along with regex. For example, let's say you want to validate US phone numbers, in every case, it has 10 digits numbers, but there are literally a ton of ways to write it out. For example (xxx) xxx-xxxx, or xxx-xxx-xxxx, or xxx xxx xxxx, etc, etc, etc. So if you write reg ex, you'd have to account for each of the cases. However, if you just strip all non-numerics and spaces with a regex replace, then go for a second pass and check if it has 10 digits, you'd find it easier than accounting each and every possible way to write a phone number.