Lets say you have six players (for a simple example). We can use the same algorithm which pairs opponents in single-elimination tournaments and adapt that to generate "even" teams based on any criteria you choose.
First rank your players best-to-worst. Don't take this too literally. You want a list of players sorted by the criteria you wish to separate them.
Why?
Let's look at single elimination tournaments for a second. The idea of using an algorithm to generate optimal single-elimination matches is to avoid the problem of the "top players" meeting too soon in the tournament. If top players meet too soon, one of the top players will be eliminated early on, making the tournament less interesting. We can use this "optimal" pairing to generate teams in which the "top" players are spread out evenly across the teams. Then spread out the the second top players, etc, etc.
So list you players by the criteria you want them separated: men first, then women... sorted by age second. We get (for example):
Player 1: Male - 18
Player 2: Male - 26
Player 3: Male - 45
Player 4: Female - 18
Player 5: Female - 26
Player 6: Female - 45
Then we'll apply the single-elimination algorithm which uses their "rank" (which is just their player number) to create "good match ups".
The single-elimination tournament generator basically works like this: take their rank (player number) and reverse the bits (binary). This new number you come up with become their "slot" in the tournament.
Player 1 in binary (001), reversed becomes 100 (4 decimal) = slot 4
Player 2 in binary (010), reversed becomes 010 (2 decimal) = slot 2
Player 3 in binary (011), reversed becomes 110 (6 decimal) = slot 6
Player 4 in binary (100), reversed becomes 001 (1 decimal) = slot 1
Player 5 in binary (101), reversed becomes 101 (5 decimal) = slot 5
Player 6 in binary (110), reversed becomes 011 (3 decimal) = slot 3
In a single-elimination tournament, slot 1 plays slot 2, 3-vs-4, 5-vs-6. We're going to uses these "pair ups" to generate optimal teams.
Looking at the player number above, ordered by their "slot number", here is the list we came up with:
Slot 1: Female - 18
Slot 2: Male - 26
Slot 3: Female - 45
Slot 4: Male - 18
Slot 5: Female - 26
Slot 6: Male - 45
When you split the slots up into teams (two or more) you get the players in slot 1-3 vs players in slot 4-6. That is the best/optimal grouping you can get.
This technique scales very well with many more players, multiple criteria (just group them together correctly), and multiple teams.