You are looking at the working set size of your program. The sum of the virtual memory pages of your program that are actually in RAM. When you minimize your main window, Windows assumes the user won't be interested in the program for a while and aggressively trims the working set. Copying the pages in RAM to the paging file and chucking them out, making room for the other process that the user is likely to start or to switch to.
This number will also go down automatically when the user starts another program that needs a lot of RAM. Windows chucks out your pages to make room for this program. It picks pages that your program hasn't used for a while, making it likely that this doesn't affect the perf of your program much.
When you switch back to your program, Windows needs to swap pages back into RAM. But this is on-demand, it only pages-in pages that your program actually uses. Which will normally be less than what it used before, no need to swap the initialization code of your program back in for example.
Needless to say perhaps, the number has absolutely nothing to do with the memory usage of your program, it is merely a statistical number.
Private bytes would be a better indicator for a memory leak. Taskmgr doesn't show that, SysInternals' ProcMon tool does. It still isn't a great indicator because that number also includes any blocks in the heap that were freed by your program and were added to the list of free blocks, ready to be re-used. There is no good way to measure actual memory in use, read the small print for the HeapWalk() API function for the kind of trouble that causes.
The memory and heap manager in Windows are far too sophisticated to draw conclusions from the available numbers. Use a leak detection tool, like the VC debug allocator (crtdbg.h).